November 1 - Noticing vs. Judging and upcoming Book Fair!

Dear CCP Families,

Our costume days at preschool were so much fun! Thanks for watching or helping with our parades. I think everyone had a great time! Hope your Halloween night was safe and fun!

There is a lot of info in today’s post, but definitely take some time to read and study the Conscious Discipline moment on NOTICING VS JUDGING at the bottom. This is a skill that the teachers and I are practicing everyday at preschool. It will be helpful to you at home also!

BOOK FAIR - Elise Gentile, our Usborne rep, will set up the BOOK FAIR in Ascension Hall on Monday, Nov. 5. You can pop by at pick-up time Monday or anytime Tuesday or Wednesday! (Bring your card or checkbook!) Online ordering is also available. Books make great Christmas gifts! Details are in the packet I put in your cubbies. If you need another packet, just ask!

FALL BACK! - Remember to "fall back" one hour on your clock at bedtime on Saturday night as daylight savings time ends on Sunday, Nov. 4.  I love this season, but I don't like that it will be dark before dinner!

ILLNESSES - It’s that time of year……We have had quite a few children out sick recently. There have been fevers, colds, upset tummies, and hand, foot, & mouth. Thanks for keeping your child home whenever s/he is sick. The other families are so appreciative. Children may return to school when they have been fever and symptom free for a minimum of 24 hours. (With hand, foot, mouth, we usually recommend about a week at home until all blisters have dried and crusted over and fever is gone.) We are encouraging children to wash hands frequently and to “catch” their coughs/sneezes in their elbows.

Looking ahead….

MONDAY, NOV. 12 - Veterans Day. Preschool is closed.

TEACHERS - We have a brief staff meeting on Nov. 13 - 12:30-1:15

CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE MOMENT - Finally, let's look at the difference between noticing and judging.  "Noticing continually activates children's prefrontal lobes and strengthens their executive skills of sustained attention, empathy, and problem-solving.  However, it requires adults to consciously change our habits and rewire our brains to notice instead of judge." (Conscious Discipline, p. 128)

       Judging actions as satisfactory creates children who are always looking for approval from the outside.  Noticing creates self-awareness and healthy attention, an important executive skill.  Noticing is descriptive and directs and sustains the child's attention like shining a flashlight on something.  Adults essentially "hold their flashlights" on the desired goals until children can hold and aim them on their own.  The difference is subtle at first.  However words are powerful and "noticing language" is more specific and gives the child more information to help to focus the child's attention on the positive.  Especially today, when the media tends to focus its attention on violence, aggression, sex, and appearances, our noticing supports children's attention by helping them aim their flashlights on the desired positive goals.

       Here are some examples....Instead of saying, "Miley, I like the way you raised your hand," try saying, "Miley you raised your hand like this (demonstrate) so I knew you needed help."  Instead of saying, "Good job Emma!" try "Emma, you worked hard on question 2 until you figured it out. That took persistence!"  Instead of "Tom, you are a good helper," try "Tom you got paper towels and cleaned the water off the floor so everyone would be safe from slipping."  Instead of "Thank you for pushing in your chair," try "Frank, you pushed in your chair so our dining room is safe."  And a final example, instead of "Good job with the napkin," try "You folded the napkin and set it next to your plate.  Now you're ready for snack!"

       I wish you well as you try aiming your adult flashlight on the positive by using noticing language with your child!