Sailing through September! (9-19-19 post) & the D. N. A. method

Hello CCP Family,

     We are settling into our preschool routines!  The children are becoming comfortable and confident with their friends and teachers.  Everyone appears to know they are safe and loved here at CCP.  We are surely on the way to becoming a school family, a process that can take about 4 to 6 weeks.

Next week we will practice our first fire drills. The teachers have read and re-read the book about fire drills to prepare the children. It is typically a very routine experience and the children find it interesting, rather than frightening.

The deadline for Spirit gear orders is this Sunday, 9-22-19. Order your items here today! We can wear our spirit gear to school on our spirit days, Oct. 14 & 15. We can also wear it to our SPIRIT NIGHT at CHICK-FIL-A (University Place) on Monday, Oct. 14 from 5:00-7:00pm. It’s great fun to eat dinner with our school family and your food orders earn $$ for the preschool if you mention CCP when ordering! There was a printed invitation in your cubbies this week also.

Next week we will begin Music & Movement with Ms. Melissa (2’s, 3’s, & 4’s) and Chapel time with Ms. Debbie (3’s & 4’s, but 2’s will join us later in the year) Chapel is on Mondays & Thursdays. Music/Movement is on Tuesdays & Wednesdays.

     Mark your calendar…..Our fall photographer, David Gellatly, will be at preschool on Oct. 1 & 2. (Ducks & TTH classes on Tues ; Whales and MW(F) classes on Wed) I will take a few children at a time to have their individual photos made. (You can dress them up if you want...we will avoid messy paints that day.)  Then I'll give you the link to find your photos on David's website for viewing and purchasing if you desire.  There is no sitting fee and David does very nice work!  In addition we will have an optional family photo day on Saturday, Oct. 5 . If you’d like to come on Oct. 5, please sign up for a time slot here.

Thank you for bringing in nutritious snacks for your child’s class. When it’s your turn, please bring 2 items so children have a choice. Please have large fruits like cantaloupe cut into bite-sized pieces. And finally, packaged snacks should be in the original, unopened box or bag. There are details in the handbook that was emailed to you. Thanks, too, for sending a water bottle each day. Please send only water in the bottle. Juices and other sweet liquids are sticky when spilled and attract bugs.

     Our fall "Getting to Know You Conferences" are Oct. 7 & 8.  Ladybugs, Ducks, & Whales, your teacher will provide a sign up link on your class page.  (Frogs will receive some communication from Ms. Julie in the fall, but will not have formal conferences until the spring.)  Of course, if anyone wants to see Ms. Julie or any teacher anytime during the year, then just make an appointment directly with the teacher you need to see.

  A CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE MOMENT on OFFERING EMPATHY:   To offer children empathy, we must be willing to let them experience distress. (p. 236 Conscious Discipline) Dr. Bailey uses her D.N.A. method - Describe.  (Pause)  Name.  Acknowledge to offer empathy to a child in distress. Here's how it looks...

Imagine your child very upset, maybe even screaming and kicking!  First you breathe composing yourself.  Then you DNA - describe, (pause), name, acknowledge like this:

D. - Active calming, noticing:  "Your face is going like this.  Your feet are going like this." (demonstrate) Child will most likely look your way.  As soon as eye contact happens....

"Hit the pause button" here and download your calm to the child by softening your face and taking a deep breath.

N. - Offer empathy:  "You seem _______. (angry, sad, scared) " Then quickly move to....

A. - Problem solving:  "You wanted ______."  or  "You were hoping ______."

Remember, if we can name the feeling the child is communicating with positive intent, then we validate the child's experience and move the regulation process forward.  "You wanted ____" and "You were hoping_____" help us acknowledge the child's most heartfelt wishes and facilitate problem solving.  It is important that the pause comes after describing.  Then you move quickly from naming to acknowledging. In this way you move the child from the survival state, up through the emotional state, then quickly into the executive state where he or she can problem-solve.  

     D. N. A. takes practice!  Be gentle on yourself as a parent and know that there may be an oops along the way.  Keep practicing and it will become easier! If you'd like more information from Dr. Bailey, go to www.consciousdiscipline.com or ask me.  The teachers and I are still learning and we practice Conscious Discipline every day!  We are so glad to have these strategies to offer the gift of self-regulation to our students.   

I hope you have a fabulous weekend and I wish you well,

Debbie